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Fighting back at bully.

When we were growing up, our brother, Bobby, who was small for his age, was  being bullied  by a big kid in the neighborhood. It was a bit surprising, since Bobby was beloved by nearly every kid in the neighborhood for his good looks, toughness, and athletic abilities.  Yet for some reason, this neighborhood bully didn’t like him. One day, when my brother had had enough, our easy-going father stepped it and made a suggestion, “Bob, the only way to get rid of a bully is to stand up to him. I think you should fight him.”

Our brother, who was known for his toughness, agreed and challenged his bully to fight at our home one Saturday.

Our not-so-easy going mother was horrified when my father told her the plan. “Saint Anthony Tony! He’s so much bigger than Bobby. He’s going to kill him.”

“Vi,” our father said. “He has to stand up to him. It’s the only way it’s gonna stop.”

The fight was the Main Event in our neighborhood, as scores of kids gathered around to watch our beloved brother take on the the neighborhood bully. (“Get him Bob!” they yelled.) Our parents and the two of us watched from high above in our family’s porch (where our mother had hung rosary beads). The tension was high as both boys got in their punches. Even our mother was getting in to it, fluttering around and punching at the air. “Good right jab, Bob!”

However, it didn’t take long for both boys to become bloodied and battered. At one point, our brother, who had always suffered from bloody noses, was gushing with blood, However, he wanted to keep going.

“Tony, stop the fight!” Our mother yelled to her father. “Bobby is bleeding. I think he might be really hurt.”

“Yeah Daddy, please. He’s gonna kill my brother,” cried Gina.

Our father, who had been in his share of fights as a kid, warned us. “Not yet. He needs to see this through.”

A few minutes latter, Bobby landed a punch that split the bully’s lips. At that point with both boys bloodied,  my father went down and stopped the fight.

The fight probably would have been called a draw, as both boys gave it their all, but Bobby was the one who earned the greatest victory when the bully came up to him and shook his hand. “Good fight.”

From that day on, the bully left Bobby alone. Eventually, they became friends.

Today, fighting back isn’t so easy. Especially, if you’re a child with special needs who may not stand a physical chance. Yet on those rare occasions when a child is able to strike back at their bully, you can’t help but applaud. Take a look at the video link below of a child who  does just that. We can’t help but wonder what the bully will do now? Tell us what you think.

Reference: Teen Bully Video Fallout — Both Kids Suspended

2 Responses to Fighting back at bully.

  1. ginabad March 21, 2011 at 1:44 am #

    I just saw this video! It’s a hard call. I was not a popular kid, because we moved around a lot, and every school I went to it seemed people were friends from grade 1. I had a girl in my 8th grade, who was tall and big for her age…and I’m petite. We sat with our desks 2×2 and lucky me, I sat next to her. While she never did more than push me once, her verbal abuse was intolerable. The day she pushed me, in the playground, I’d had it. I pulled out her chair, and she landed on her butt so hard all the desks jumped. Because I was quiet and a good student, even the teacher laughed, but she tried to hide it. I hate to say this, but after that, she was nice to me and even became my friend, sort of..I didn’t really want to be friends, lol…

    Those were different days…no one got in trouble on either side. Now, though, I certainly don’t condone violence, and as you see from this, both kids got suspended. I don’t know what the answer, and I fear that violence on the part of the victim can bring greater retaliation – with backup – from the bully.

  2. Laura March 21, 2011 at 1:54 am #

    I think the bullied kid showed an amazing amount of restraint to let that little twerp hit him that many times before he did anything about it. Then, after slamming him, he walked away, rather than kicking the crap out of him while he was down there.
    Is that an adult in the background? Why did she just stand there, even after the bully was hurt?

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